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Francine’s “Partner” Experience

By : September 9, 2020 Comments Off
As of my senior year, I’ve been with my current partner, so almost four years. I call him my partner because I’m bisexual, and one of my preferences regarding pronouns is using terms such as “partner” instead of boyfriend, or fiancé, or husband. If I were dating a woman, she would be my partner, too. For me, this is deeper than inclusion: it’s a safety net. To understand why this is important to me, I have to recollect on my experiences in high school and middle school. I never came out, I had always had relationships with both women and men, and everyone who knew me knew that gender was not one of my preferences. It was a strange, unceremonial event: one day I started dating my best friend, and
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Surviving a Queer High School Relationship from Teen to Adult

By : July 18, 2020 Comments Off
The mainstream narrative surrounding high school relationships is usually to break up when both of the individuals go to college. It is hard enough transitioning from being a child to a young adult without outside pressure to break up with the person who has been your support system. This is especially hard for gay couples because often times, as was the case with me, our partner is the only person who fully understands what we are going through as a queer person in society.  I met my girlfriend when we were fifteen, we started dating when we were sixteen, and we are now twenty-four and going strong. Both of our parents accepted our relationship, but they would constantly tell us that we needed to “find ourselves” in college. Sometimes I
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On Being Transgender and Experiencing A Different Kind of Fatherhood

By : June 19, 2020 Comments Off
For the longest time, I struggled with depression and self-injury. I was afraid to talk about gender identity and sexuality as we didn’t talk about it in the communities I grew up in. To make matters worse, the slang words that were used when I was older were full of homophobia, transphobia, and stigma. I didn’t know what to do with my sexual attraction and admiring the masculine form wishing I had those masculine characteristics such as no breasts, a strong jawline, facial hair, and more to match how I felt on the inside instead of the physical female characteristics I was. Self-injury was one of my primary ways of coping with gender dysphoria. Nothing in my life ever felt stable or safe.  Gaining access to LGBTQIA+ resources and going
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Toxic Relationships: How to Spot the Red Flags

By : June 8, 2020 01 Comment
After watching a movie named- Abzurdah in Spanish on Netflix, I realized how toxic it can be to hold onto someone, who is okay with losing you. The movie spoke volumes about how harmful and obsessive a toxic relationship cab get when one of the partners doesn’t feel the same anymore. First love has a different essence. Amidst all the guitars and roses, the view of a relationship, that might actually be unhealthy, gets dimmed. Going bonkers when you see your partner drifting apart, is something natural which many people feel whilst being in a relationship. Let’s keep one thing in our minds: Relationship toxicity isn’t gender-specific. However hard it is to accept, we must notice the signs early and make a shift ASAP. While talking about relationships, I wouldn’t
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Are They Toxic?

By : June 8, 2020 Comments Off
I would like to take you on a short and very personal journey through my relationships and the person I have been, as well as those I have been with. Love is such an abstract and the thought /feeling of love in my brain would form to the romantic relationships that I had, and of course, fused with the ones I witnessed growing up. It was never really taught to me how to compartmentalize or properly compromise in a relationship, I mean who teaches you that stuff anyway? I think people expect kids to use television or the relationships in their families as models, but if those aren’t necessarily healthy either then what else are we supposed to learn?  I got married at freshly 18 years-old to my high school
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Falling in Love with My Best Friend

By : June 1, 2020 Comments Off
I met my best friend in college during Bible Study at the Newman Center across the street from the University.  Weekly, we would attend Bible Study and Sunday night mass.  The more I got to know her the more I wanted to know.  She was funny, but also serious, and deep. She had beautiful eyes, and short brown curly hair, and her smile was Pretty soon we started to study together, eat meals together, hang out,talk all night long, and I felt like I have known her forever.  Both of us were raised Catholic, were first generation college students, and Therapeutic Recreation majors.  Looking back, I think it was obvious to most people that we were dating.  However, we were both oblivious to what was happening.  I walked a different
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