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My Family Was Ready to Communicate, but I Wasn’t

By : July 15, 2020 Comments Off
Regard this statement as fact, rather than with pity: I have always been the outlier in my family. While every child feels like this at some point during adolescence, it seems to be a stronger feeling among those that grew up in the 90s until now. This stronger feeling must be provoking stronger actions if the complaints from parents and older siblings are true: teenagers and children today isolate themselves more than previous generations.  Over the years, the stereotype of an angsty, explosive teenager among an otherwise friendly suburban family has evolved into a teenager that simply doesn’t express themself at all. Said teen’s family is completely out of the loop, unsure if their child is depressed, angry, wondering if they have any interest in the world at all. The
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7 Ways You Can Respect Gender Identities

By : July 10, 2020 Comments Off
In a study done by the Williams Institute (2012-2017), an estimated 1.4 million US adults identified as transgender. Since that study, the LGBTQI+ community has continued to expand. An ever-growing number of people openly identify differently than their assigned gender. As a result, it is imperative that we actively inquire as to what people identify as. The more we do so, the more we will be able to respect the identity of those within our lives.  Below are seven ways that you can respect people's gender identity.  Ask people what their pronouns are. When we ask people what their pronouns are, we demonstrate that we respect and support their individual identity. Asking about pronouns is simple. You can simply introduce yourself to people by stating your name and pronouns, after
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On Being Transgender and Experiencing A Different Kind of Fatherhood

By : June 19, 2020 Comments Off
For the longest time, I struggled with depression and self-injury. I was afraid to talk about gender identity and sexuality as we didn’t talk about it in the communities I grew up in. To make matters worse, the slang words that were used when I was older were full of homophobia, transphobia, and stigma. I didn’t know what to do with my sexual attraction and admiring the masculine form wishing I had those masculine characteristics such as no breasts, a strong jawline, facial hair, and more to match how I felt on the inside instead of the physical female characteristics I was. Self-injury was one of my primary ways of coping with gender dysphoria. Nothing in my life ever felt stable or safe.  Gaining access to LGBTQIA+ resources and going
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Passing with Pride

By : June 13, 2020 Comments Off
Pride as a concept has always been a little complicated for me. Growing up, I was super closeted - turns out getting consistently called “gay” as a pejorative for most of your childhood will do this to you! It wasn’t that I thought being gay was bad, it was just that the media I was consuming was Very Straight. When I was probably 14 or 15, I wanted to go to San Francisco on a weekend; I grew up in the suburbs, so it was only a 45-minute commute, but I still had to ask permission to go. I can’t remember if I began the conversation knowing that it was Pride weekend, but after I let it slip that it was happening, my dad told me I couldn’t go and
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What Cracked My Egg

By : May 19, 2020 Comments Off
Have you ever thought you were someone and then turns out you’re someone else entirely? That’s what happened to me. I thought I was a cis-may-not-be-totally-hetero man for a long stretch of time, but then I saw a video of a trans woman sharing her experience with dysphoria. Let me tell you, seeing that many parallels between our experiences got me questioning myself pretty quickly. My ads and YouTube  algorithm got shaken up and everything on my recommended tab were trans videos. It was a wild month, I’m telling you. Anyways, I’m here to share my experience, hoping that I can do for you what that woman did for me.  Let’s start with my childhood, shall we? You see, my childhood was pretty normal, one might even say that it
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Exploring my Gender Identity

By : May 19, 2020 Comments Off
I had a really hard time during puberty-- like most people do, I guess. I remember reading The Diary of Anne Frank in school, fixating on the page with wide eyes as Anne talked about the excitement she felt over becoming a woman. Meanwhile, I watched in horror as my body started to outgrow the shell I desperately wanted to stay in. When being applied to me, the word “woman” never sat right. In an attempt to resist my own growth, I developed an eating disorder. I went off to college finding myself worrying more about food and the size of my thighs than I was about making new friendships. My world quickly spiraled out of control, landing me in treatment center after treatment center. Some suggested that this was
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