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Toxic Relationships: How to Spot the Red Flags

By : June 8, 2020 01 Comment
After watching a movie named- Abzurdah in Spanish on Netflix, I realized how toxic it can be to hold onto someone, who is okay with losing you. The movie spoke volumes about how harmful and obsessive a toxic relationship cab get when one of the partners doesn’t feel the same anymore. First love has a different essence. Amidst all the guitars and roses, the view of a relationship, that might actually be unhealthy, gets dimmed. Going bonkers when you see your partner drifting apart, is something natural which many people feel whilst being in a relationship. Let’s keep one thing in our minds: Relationship toxicity isn’t gender-specific. However hard it is to accept, we must notice the signs early and make a shift ASAP. While talking about relationships, I wouldn’t
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Are They Toxic?

By : June 8, 2020 Comments Off
I would like to take you on a short and very personal journey through my relationships and the person I have been, as well as those I have been with. Love is such an abstract and the thought /feeling of love in my brain would form to the romantic relationships that I had, and of course, fused with the ones I witnessed growing up. It was never really taught to me how to compartmentalize or properly compromise in a relationship, I mean who teaches you that stuff anyway? I think people expect kids to use television or the relationships in their families as models, but if those aren’t necessarily healthy either then what else are we supposed to learn?  I got married at freshly 18 years-old to my high school
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Falling in Love with My Best Friend

By : June 1, 2020 Comments Off
I met my best friend in college during Bible Study at the Newman Center across the street from the University.  Weekly, we would attend Bible Study and Sunday night mass.  The more I got to know her the more I wanted to know.  She was funny, but also serious, and deep. She had beautiful eyes, and short brown curly hair, and her smile was Pretty soon we started to study together, eat meals together, hang out,talk all night long, and I felt like I have known her forever.  Both of us were raised Catholic, were first generation college students, and Therapeutic Recreation majors.  Looking back, I think it was obvious to most people that we were dating.  However, we were both oblivious to what was happening.  I walked a different
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Finding Your Labels

By : May 31, 2020 Comments Off
When I was in elementary school, there was an afternoon where my older sister approached me and said, “Do you know what a lesbian is?” I said that I didn’t know, and she told me that it’s a “girl who likes other girls.” I felt like my world had shifted. The fact that I could put a word to what I felt made my heart race. In my excitement, I later told my mom about this new piece of knowledge. She asked where I had heard it from, and I told her that my sister told me. I didn’t know it then, but a few years later I realized that my sister had gotten in trouble for introducing “lesbian” to my vocabulary. It’s already difficult to grow up non-cishet and
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Dating During Lockdown

By : May 19, 2020 Comments Off
The good, the bad and the ugly  Does dating during lockdown exist? It does, it just exists in a more condensed version of regular dating. There’s very little meeting up, and very little swiping because of the lack of ability to meet up. In my personal experience I was able to meet one girl online, on Bumble, and it’s been great. We talk about the lockdown, and coronavirus because what else is there to talk about nowadays? We were curious about asking people what their experiences are like during the lockdown. So, we asked a few people about their dating habits during lockdown. Sophie, 20, Guelph, CanadaBisexual Woman  Okcupid  Have you gone on a date during lockdown?  “I haven’t been on a date since the lockdown started.”  How has your dating
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Coming out in India: How to Tackle the Dilemma?

By : May 19, 2020 Comments Off
Being an Asian, it’s inherent that I belong to a community that is very strict and conservative about the way matters of family are curated and concerned. When it comes to sexuality,at school, we aren't taught much how to deal with an umbrella topic that has such a wide scope and nuances. Having a friend in high school who was gay, taught me an important lesson in life: how does a person deal with something so delicate and how can one's life revolve around it entirely. This friend was Jai, who was an average shy Indian boy, always used to get awkward amongst our group; which consisted of many guys. When we were in our early adolescence, we just deemed him as an introvert, who doesn't like to mess with
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