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What Does It Mean To Be Ace?

By : July 16, 2021 Comments Off
If you’re anything like me, finding the definition of asexuality can be difficult. There are so many misunderstandings and jokes, and that can make it so hard to figure out what it actually means.  This is because the definition of asexual varies depending on the person. Not the answer you were hoping for, right? Actually, this is the same story as every other orientation and identity. While it may not be the easy answer, it’s the most realistic. After all, there is no “one-size-fits-all” label! If you are looking for a simple and boiled-down answer, here is the general definition: Asexual: a person who does not experience sexual attraction or experiences very little sexual attraction. While this can be helpful, the definition doesn’t cover every aspect of asexuality. Being asexual
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Publicly Asexual

By : June 12, 2021 Comments Off
Fluidity is a concept that has interested me for years, but I was not very familiar with how it worked. When I first started learning about the LGBTQ+ community, I read about the spectrum of gender and sexuality, which gave me a foundation for my knowledge, but still didn’t answer many of my questions. Over time, my thoughts about queerness have been transformed to the idea that labels don’t have to be fixed and that societal standards can be restrictive.  This is also true of living in a publicly authentic way, which reminds me of my experiences as an asexual person. Whenever I meet someone new, a question that I am always asked is if I am dating someone. When I say no, I am met with even more questions,
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Coexisting

By : May 15, 2021 Comments Off
Throughout my life, I have found it difficult to understand how queer people have found ways to reconcile Christianity with their identity. This is something that I struggled with for years because of my upbringing.  Growing up, I attended a very religious and private school in the suburbs, and we were constantly taught about the dangers of the world and the things that we needed to beware of. It was because of these lessons I was taught throughout my life that I did not know that it was possible for me to be anything but straight. Once I gave myself the space to learn about the queer community, the oblivion that I once had become bitterness because I had spent years of my life being unaware.  While I still find
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Telling Our Stories

By : April 30, 2021 01 Comment
At the beginning of COVID, I started writing fanfiction. Before this, I never pictured myself as someone who would be interested in creative writing. I wrote essays for school, and that was the extent of my writing. Then one day, I went onto AO3 to search for fanfiction of a show that I had been watching and as I was searching around, I was disappointed to find that no one had written any asexual fanfiction about this show. This is not an uncommon problem for the ace community. Many people find asexual stories to be boring, and since the ace community is small, there is an even smaller number of people who write fanfiction inside of it.  That is when I realized something that would inspire me. I enjoyed writing,
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Outed

By : April 16, 2021 Comments Off
Most queer people have had strange and uncomfortable coming-out experiences. I know I have had plenty. Recently, I was accidentally outed to one of my grandparents. Having this conversation with grandparents is an awkward thing to do. However, being panromantic and asexual adds a strange set of complications to this process. Generally, people do not understand what asexuality is. Common responses are that it means that someone is scared of commitment, that they haven’t found the right person yet, or everyone’s favorite, that they are a plant. In order to avoid these discussions, asexual people often only come out as their romantic identity just to make things easier.  This is also something that people of other queer identities do. For example, pansexual people are often confused for being bisexual. While
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Queer Representation in Children’s Entertainment

By : April 16, 2021 Comments Off
In 2017, Disney Channel aired the series, Andi Mack. It is about an Asian-American teenage girl living with her single mother, who had her when she was a teenager. In addition to this, Andi Mack tells the story of main character, Cyrus Goodman, who discovers he is gay and begins a journey towards self-acceptance.  This show marks a huge step for Disney, as this is their first openly gay main character. When Cyrus first came out, he told one of his female friends. He explained that he liked a certain boy but that he felt bad about it. In the next season, he told one of his male friends that he was gay, actually using the word “gay." This was the first time that the phrase, “I’m gay,” was used
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