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How I Came to Peace with Myself

By : December 3, 2020 2 Comments
When I was younger, I felt like any other child, but there was always something off about myself that bothered me. In third grade, while I attempted to dust that weird feeling under the rug, I soon discovered that I had also liked girls. I had a little crush on my best friend but never knew if it was just infatuation or honest feelings. It clicked to me that I was attracted to both boys and girls. I was aware of bisexuality because of my sister.  She is 5 years older than me and was in middle school at the time. Her coming out to my dad was the scariest conversation I had witnessed. Not only did he tell her that it was wrong, but he also avoided it and
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What No One Told Me About Coming Out

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My dad used to always tell me, “Everyone is the first person to discover fire, at least in their own world.”  For most of my life, I largely brushed it off as one of those things your parents say to you—you know, the little pseudo-epigrams they make up to sound wiser and maybe even a little world-wearier. Parental ethos, or something.  I realized, though, once I was in my 20s, that this was more than one of those nonsense jeu d’esprits. Granted, I never asked what my father intended by it, but I don’t think my own working analysis of that statement is what he meant at all. Regardless of what his intention was, I know what it means to me. I know that the first time my friends called
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Asexual in a Hypersexual World

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Realizing that you are asexual is a strange experience, especially as the world is incredibly hypersexualized.  I was 18 when I discovered asexuality. I had just graduated from a small, religious school in my hometown, and I had decided that I was going to use my newly obtained freedom to learn about myself. At the time, it was Pride Month and there were many people posting on social media about the LGBTQ+ community and their sexualities, and I was curious, so I read what people had to say. As I saw the posts and the memes about asexuality, my thoughts went from “Wow, this is really cool!” to “Oh… that makes perfect sense, and I have no idea why.” It was an odd realization for me because I was taught
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