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How Moving out Helped me Heal

By : July 19, 2020 Comments Off
Living in a toxic household comes with many things. You feel like you can never trust anyone; like you can love or be loved; like you don’t deserve anything. You feel stuck. You try to find places and things to make you feel safe. For me, it was writing.  I could create any world I wanted where the hero would face the same problems I did but always came through at the end. The main character became my role model. She would go through everything I went through: abusive parents, a toxic household, feeling left out at school, being in the closet and, many other things. Unlike me, my main character would be able to overcome these obstacles. It was something that I longed for but couldn’t do.  I felt
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My Family Was Ready to Communicate, but I Wasn’t

By : July 15, 2020 Comments Off
Regard this statement as fact, rather than with pity: I have always been the outlier in my family. While every child feels like this at some point during adolescence, it seems to be a stronger feeling among those that grew up in the 90s until now. This stronger feeling must be provoking stronger actions if the complaints from parents and older siblings are true: teenagers and children today isolate themselves more than previous generations.  Over the years, the stereotype of an angsty, explosive teenager among an otherwise friendly suburban family has evolved into a teenager that simply doesn’t express themself at all. Said teen’s family is completely out of the loop, unsure if their child is depressed, angry, wondering if they have any interest in the world at all. The
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Finding Your Labels

By : May 31, 2020 Comments Off
When I was in elementary school, there was an afternoon where my older sister approached me and said, “Do you know what a lesbian is?” I said that I didn’t know, and she told me that it’s a “girl who likes other girls.” I felt like my world had shifted. The fact that I could put a word to what I felt made my heart race. In my excitement, I later told my mom about this new piece of knowledge. She asked where I had heard it from, and I told her that my sister told me. I didn’t know it then, but a few years later I realized that my sister had gotten in trouble for introducing “lesbian” to my vocabulary. It’s already difficult to grow up non-cishet and
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Coming out in India: How to Tackle the Dilemma?

By : May 19, 2020 Comments Off
Being an Asian, it’s inherent that I belong to a community that is very strict and conservative about the way matters of family are curated and concerned. When it comes to sexuality,at school, we aren't taught much how to deal with an umbrella topic that has such a wide scope and nuances. Having a friend in high school who was gay, taught me an important lesson in life: how does a person deal with something so delicate and how can one's life revolve around it entirely. This friend was Jai, who was an average shy Indian boy, always used to get awkward amongst our group; which consisted of many guys. When we were in our early adolescence, we just deemed him as an introvert, who doesn't like to mess with
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Home for the HoliGAYS

By : December 25, 2017 Comments Off
*Note: This article was originally published on Pride Pocket prior to merging with MyUmbrella* Visiting your family for the holidays can be pretty stressful - regardless of your circumstances - but for members of the LGBT+ community, ordinary family tensions can be compounded with bigotry, erasure, and hostility. If this is your first holiday season out to your family, this may be especially true. Whether you have recently begun to transition, are bringing a same-sex partner home for the first time, or just need your family to understand that this is who you truly are - here are some tips, suggestions, and things to avoid to get you through this festive season. Coming out for The HolidaysIf your family does not yet know about your gender and orientation, the easiest
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